Roughly 10% of British men have paid for sex at some point in their lives. If you're about to go on a date with an escort, you can take solace knowing you're not alone.
Although there are plenty of people who use escort services, how to act when meeting an escort isn't common knowledge. What do you say? How do you go about paying her?
Luckily, there are a few easy tips that can help ensure your date goes well and you act like the perfect gentleman.
Do you want to know what they are? Keep reading to find out!
Do you plan on having sex with your escort at the end of the date? Do you have some special fantasy you'd like to play out? Make sure this is all communicated with her before your big date.
Not all escorts have sex and the ones who do often have limitations on what they're comfortable with. Make sure you read her profile to ensure she is the right match for you. Then, discuss how you?d like the date to go.
You don't want to surprise her with these big expectations halfway through the date or right before you head towards the bedroom and ruin the mood. Instead, everyone will be a lot more comfortable if sexual preferences are discussed beforehand.
In many ways, you should treat a date with an escort the same way you'd treat any other date. This means you should take care in picking the location.
While you may immediately think of a nice restaurant, that's not your only option. You could also meet in a quaint cafe, take a walk in the park, or explore a local museum together.
You wouldn't show up to any other date in sweats or a stained t-shirt, and your date with an escort should be no different. Dress in attire that's appropriate for your date, and take extra care to ensure you look date-ready.
This means that you should also be sure to shower and make sure your fingernails are trimmed.
One unique aspect of dating an escort is that you?ll have to settle the matter of payment. You want to make this as normal and discrete as you can.
The best way to do this is to have the exact amount tucked into an envelope. You can place in on the table and call it a 'gift' at the beginning of the date to get it out of the way.
Once the payment is taken care of, don't bring it up again. Saying things like 'I paid for?' throughout the date will only make things awkward and may even cause the people around you to stare.
Nothing ruins a romantic mood like awkward silences. If you're nervous, you can prepare a few topics to discuss ahead of time in case there's a lull in the conversation.
But be sure to keep the topics light. An escort may be wary about giving out personal details, so stick to questions regarding things like hobbies and interests.
It's only natural to feel nervous before a first date. But drowning those nerves in alcohol is never a good idea.
Of course, having a drink or two with dinner is okay. Just make sure you know your limits, and don't drink to the point of being disrespectful or sloppy.
So, you've discussed your expectations for sex beforehand and your date is absolutely beautiful. You may feel tempted to go straight to bed, but don't rush out of the restaurant before the entrees even arrive.
Remember, you want to act like you would on any other date. So, take your time at dinner and make polite conversation with your escort.
Also, be sure to listen to her cues when you do suggest moving the date into the bedroom. Don't try to push your date if she's not comfortable yet. She likely has a method of assessing whether a situation is safe or not, and you want to make sure she feels safe before going any further.
Nothing is more romantic than a man who is respectful. It's important to be polite to your date, and avoid treating her like paid property.
This simply means you should respect her boundaries and talk to her like you'd talk to your female friends and coworkers. Leave the dirty talk for the bedroom, and don't discuss her profession or the fact that you gave her money.
Of course, you don't have to go to a 5-star restaurant and bring her a dozen red roses to be respectful and romantic. The best way to ensure the date goes smoothly is to be yourself. If you feel awkward and uncomfortable, chances are, your date will too.
So, if you usually go on casual dates, then take her to a more relaxed restaurant or even a cafe.
If you have a first date with an escort coming up, it's only natural to feel a little nervous. But by following the tips above, you can be a real romantic and ensure the date goes smoothly.
If the night goes well, you may even want to leave your date a tip to show your appreciation. Check out this guide on tipping etiquette to decide if a tip is in order.